Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Understanding the Law of Attraction

Someone recently told me that I need to write a book on the Law of Attraction.  I laughed for a few seconds and put the thought aside.  I have started writing books but never have finished any of them.  Either I get side tracked or find that my interest in the topic fades after the first couple of chapters.  However, when my son texted me with excitement from school today saying that his 8th grade class is going on a free ski trip next week, I considered blogging about the Law of Attraction.  My son has been wanting to go skiing for quite awhile now and I told him that he will go this year.  Sure enough, not a couple weeks after talking about it, he's going with his classmates.  That was easy!
I call the Law of Attraction by a different term.  Most call it "The Secret" after the book written by Rhonda Byrne, but I have heard it called "Intentions," or Intending.  Some refer to it as wishing or manifesting.  The religious call it prayer.  I call it mojo.  No matter what you call it, it is all the same and the outcome is always the same. 

You practice it every day, whether you are aware of it or not.  That raise you got, the stubbed toe that happened before your vacation, the red light that made you late for work, were all forms of Attraction.  What you attract depends on what you think and the meaning behind the thought.

The Different Kinds of Mojo:

  • Good mojo is what we all want to attract.  It is a winning scratch ticket someone gave you as a birthday gift, it is the parking space right in front when you are in a hurry, it is the promotion at work that you didn't expect.   Good mojo comes in almost blissful waves and makes life so much easier.
  • Positive mojo is luck.  It is the unexpected promotion eventually saving you from being laid off, getting dumped in a dead-end relationship a few weeks before finding the "one," finding money when looking for your keys.  It is the moment that a seemingly disappointing event turns out to be an amazing one.   
  • Bad mojo is the bad events that swarm our lives like locusts.  Bad mojo is the speeding ticket, stolen credit card, getting fired from a job because of an illness you can't shake, the unexpected bill that you owe for no real reason.  
  • Negative mojo is the backward, almost ironic, events in our lives.  Negative mojo is one step forward but two steps back.  For example, it is winning a couple hundred dollars the same day your car breaks down, buying a game station the week before your TV burns out, or breaking the sprinkler line while landscaping the yard.
  • Karmic comeback is what you wish for on somebody else or what actions you perform, which then comes back on you. Wishing a person ill health will surely land you with the flu, or something dreadfully worse.  On the other hand, buying coffee for the person behind you in line, only to have your boss give you a gift card later in the week in appreciation of your hard work.  Karmic comeback is sure to catch up to you one way or another.     

Good mojo is what everyone wants to strive for.  It comes with no strings attached.  It doesn't contain hiccups or speed bumps.  It certainly doesn't come with clauses, contracts, ultimatums, or rain checks.  It is just all around good and comes in abundance to those who attract it.  To attract good mojo, one must first be good and think in good ways.  Think, "Starbucks barista" cheerful and happy.  Almost "gag me" happy even if your mood is anything but.  Give more to people who need it.  Smile.  Be happier.  Do things that make you happy.  Become the happy person you know you should be.  Push the "That Was Easy" button more.  Sing, whistle, or hum.  Then think happy thoughts, "I love when birds sing through my window," "My job is awesome," "I love my car."  Most importantly, wish good things for the best of everyone and all things.   Within a couple of days, good mojo starts flowing abundantly throughout your life.

When my boyfriend needed an oil change on his car he was a little strapped for cash.  I said to him, "don't worry, you'll get your oil change."  The next day I was offered a free oil change for being a veteran.  All I had to do was make an appointment.  So I made one for that Friday and my boyfriend got his oil changed for free.  "That Was Easy!"        
Positive mojo is being unexpectedly lucky in coincidental outcomes, often too ridiculous to repeat.  It is usually a lesson and has an attached motive somewhere.  You can think of it as a bad situation turned out for the best, or an unexpected good outcome from a potentially bad scenario.  In some cases it is one step backwards and two steps forward, other times it is one step backwards and a couple steps sideways before one step forward again.  It is your half-assed, egocentric wishes coming back slapping you in the face!  Although many people wish to be lucky, it really isn't advantageous to be lucky.  Luck often comes disguised with a hidden agenda.  It is important when something bad happens to stay positive, be happy and sincerely cheerful.  Look at the glass as always half full with a refill coming.  But most importantly, to wish for things to come easily for the good of everyone and all things.  

When my sister was rear-ended in her collector's addition Mustang, it had the potential to be a wet, hot, mess.  The kid who rear-ended her had insurance through a shady insurance company owned by a discount traffic law firm.  The insurance company was one of those companies that would be as close to being a scam as a slug is to a snail, but I digress.  The auto body shop my sister took her car to even had a sign on their front desk saying they specifically do not take this insurance.   But despite all the negatives she faced, my sister kept a positive outlook and within a week, her car was fixed as good as new with no hiccups or issues.  Even the lady at the front desk was amazed by how smooth the process was.

Bad mojo are those bad days where one bad thing happens after another.  Or it is the one very bad thing that sends a flood of emotions through you.   It is the event that is hard to recover from.  It is the mess that landed in your lap.  It is the spiral downwards into a chasm of torment and despair.  It is often the negative thoughts creating the reality we fear.  Being fired, getting into a car accident, losing a loved one, or getting sick.   The more rotten things get the more negative thoughts create a deluge of bad mojo.  The deeper the hole gets the harder it is to climb out.  Start with friends and ask for positive feedback.  Ask for acknowledgement and support from them.  Get out and have fun.  Find someone who can help you think happy thoughts again.  Get back to thinking happy.  Remember, six out of seven dwarves are not happy.  Don't find the grumpy dwarf and expect results.

A friend of mine recently fell into the bad mojo trap.  She found herself jobless, relationshipless, dogless, broke, hungry, and then homeless within a matter of a few weeks.  Everything she did was futile because something bad was happening to her around every corner.  And, unfortunately the bad mojo bunny loves leaving rotten eggs everywhere; more bad mojo eggs were laid every time she complained about her life, talked about her troubles, and worried about what bad thing was going to ruin her life next.  She would keep breaking open the rotten eggs only to continue to spiral downwards deeper into the dark hole she feared falling into.   She has yet to recover.           Negative mojo is the irony that leaves your life a complicated mess.  It is the good thing that comes from the bad thing, only to unexpectedly return back to bad again.  Or it is the event that you thought was going to turn out good that ended up to be a slap in the face and a kick in the pants.  I tend to think that negative mojo is worse than bad mojo because negative mojo plays a huge prank on you at your expense.  It would be funny if it wasn't not funny, though many people are laughing at you.  It often comes attached with some ultimatum or hidden agenda written somewhere in an abstract contract you didn't get to read.  It is that event that seems too ridiculous to be real, but too real to ignore.  When stuck in the negative mojo it is often harder to get back into good mojo because you almost wait for the punchline.  When you wait for a punchline, one will show up turning good mojo into negative mojo again.  It is important to surround yourself with positive people and good situations.  Don't expect a trap or wait for a punchline, instead keep expecting good things to happen.  Be happy about what you do have and look at the glass as being half full with another free refill coming.  

I was joking around with my sister that I wanted to drop a 300 hp engine in my old car, which I just spent $2400 to repair.  What I really wanted, however, was to replace my car with an SUV and made that quite clear to the almighty powers that be.   Well, not a couple days later, the head gasket in my car  blew leaving my sister and I stranded a long ways from anywhere on a hot day without shade.  It wasn't very funny.   My dad offered his "gutted for scrap metal" '92 Blazer to me while I save enough for a new car.   I plunked down another $1,000 to fix the old SUV up enough so that I would have a vehicle in the interim.  However, the Blazer doesn't have heat or a working dash and stalls out frequently.  One recent afternoon, I was thinking about my situation and finally realized that I was slapped in the face with negative mojo.  I no longer have a working engine in my old car and I ended up trading it for a SUV; a joke at my expense.   

Karmic comeback is tricky to understand.  Regardless if you believe in karma or not, thoughts directed at other people will come back to you.   From what I observed, karma is more or less the actions, feelings, and thoughts you have which influence the actions, feelings, and thoughts of others, thereby changing outcomes and creating future events; much like a butterfly effect.  I also can simplify it as describing karma as ripples of water in a bathtub: one ripple effects all the water and will touch all the sides of the tub with some waves bouncing back and interfering with the other waves going in a different direction.  This is the best analogy for it is similar to human's instinctive energy cycles.   A fun social experiment is to watch crowds in a busy mall and notice the direction of flow, the waves, the dams, and even the occasional upstream fish that decides it wants go against the flow of traffic.  In the karmic sense, what you create for other people bounces back your way.  Be prepared if what you send out is not your cup of tea.

I once had dated a moron long ago who truly believed that if he prayed hard enough he could burn off all of his karmic debt.  He got this concept from joining a modern cult derived from the 13th century Sant Mat religion, which taught that a person inherits and earns karma (like a point system) and can burn it off by meditating and praying to a secret [dead] person.  I humored him for a few months as he revealed his master's teachings to me.  Yet his entire life was a crap filled, maggot infested, rotten deviled egg.  He had a bum leg from an old auto accident, had sleep apnea, had trouble with his memory, he suffered from prostatitis and E.D., rented a slum apartment in the ghetto, drove an old Geo Metro, had pissed off his entire family, had burned through his retirement account to visit his son out of state who didn't want to see him anyway, and was stuck working graveyard shift in a grocery store making barely enough to scrape by.  Don't ask me what I saw in him, albeit he was good looking with a silver tongue, he also used women and discarded them like fast food containers.  Close to the end of the short time we dated, he tried to teach me how to become "enlightened" through the teachings of his cult leader hoping I would join him on his spiritual journey.  He was an idiot.  But what I did learn was that, 1) karmic comeback happens all the time, good and bad, 2) you reap what you sow, 3) sometimes karma can instantaneously ruin your life, or in my ex's case, eat at it so slowly that it isn't noticeably painful...yet.   Most importantly, I learned to keep on karma's good side because the bad side can be very vindictively vengeful!